Another reason it upset’s me is because, i’m a Black woman finishing up college, and i’ve traveled to many places and have seen and met many types of people and it’s all about keeping an open mind. I’ve dated my fare share of people wether they were white, black, hispanic and NONE of them have treated me any different if i were a “white woman” or secretly wanted me to be. If you can respect yourself enough to look past the skin color of someone to date and try to create happiness i truly feel bad for whoever can’t do that.

I’m a history major, and have taken many.many..many courses on slavery, and racism, and one of replies earlier was right with black people enslaving white people. Also many of our “so called” brother and sisters and family that should have been saving us were selling us off for money! many of the kings in africa were making a hefty profit on selling our relatives…it wasn’t all the “white peoples” fault and i hate when people just blame one person.

I do think that black woman make themselves high in mighty in many ways, because of being left, and of course what many other people have talked about above i don’t want to keep repeating myself. I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting to be a proud black woman; but it doesn’t mean you can’t find a White man to support you too. I met this amazing guy (white male) he loved me for me and never would have me change anything, his parents loved me. they never once told there son ‘are you sure you want to date a black girl’ i asked him too about it cause i know i could run across it, but i haven’t and its about taking a chance and if he doesn’t want to except you..He’s not the right person but to be closed minded and to be the “strong black woman” and wanting to meet your great black guy even if your not that interested in him but he’s black and good looking compared to the white male who you have everything in common with and he has a great job. Get off your “proud black woman syndrome” and go date. I think the best book i read growing up was the star-belly snitches, and how it was about racism, and how it took a long time for people to see that everyone is a like underneath it all but to be soooo closed mined your being racist. It’s 2011 and it’s time to let things go and move on.

To end things i was adopted because my “proud black mother” was an alcoholic and my birth father ditched out on here leaving her with kids and a addiction. I was adopted when i was about a year and my parents are white. They have never treated me different in anyway and i wouldn’t change my parents for anything in the world. which is another reason i would never be closed minded my parents never had to adopt 3 black children they could have said no we will wait for the next “white” child please but they didn’t care they wanted a child no matter what color and they raised me like there own. To know my parents are so opened minded i know that many people i date our as well and many guys and girls in this world are very opened minded. Open your heart and just close your eye’s color shouldn’t be an issue and black woman give white guys a chance. it’s sad that even today there are articles like this. It’s sad and i’m ashamed for it.

I am a white man who is very attracted to strong black women. This is not merely a sex thing (though in any romantic situation there is, and should be, an erotic element). I believe that black women, having been used by white men and abandoned by black men, have needed to develop strength to survive. I find this strength appealing in every way. This adds to my love for the physical attributes typically associated with black women. Ebony eyes, full in hips and lips, luxurious hair, and beautuful dark skin. There are those who would say tha my desire to spend the rest of my life loving one black women must be based on latent racism. I find this to be absurd.

There are many things I would like to add here, but I will keep this to the subject at hand. There is no such thing as a “more beautiful” or “more worthy” race. But, for me, I will wait until I find a beautiful, loving, intelligent, strong black woman who will have me, and I will love her only for the rest of my days.

This book never gives anyone an answer or even an excuse as to why black men “love” white women, at all. This book also fails to answer this question properly, honestly or respectfully. The author has a habit of going off-topic and off-the-wall many times. In fact, the only chapter in this book that really brings up the subject about interracial relationships is the chapter entitled “White Women Are Just Stupid”. If anything, this book mainly discusses how the black community has been destroyed thanks to white male ego/insecurity, along with how black men and women are degraded in Hollywood. Rajen Persaud discusses how black people are painted in films such as “Pulp Fiction”, “Monster’s Ball”, “Barbershop” (a movie he personally dislikes), etc… The author states that black people suffer from power struggles based on how much they’ve endured from white America, slavery, Jim Crow and the legacies of rape, fear and injustices perpetuated by white men. However, none of these things have anything at all to do with why black men “love” white women.

The author does call out ignorant stereotypes about white women being “pushovers” and that this stereotype is only created to make certain people feel better about themselves. I will give him credit for this; it needed to be said a long time ago! Rajen tells it like it is when he admits that black women are just as “soft” as white women and that regardless of how angry, demanding or pissed off a woman can be, a man is going to be a man and does what he wants to do in the end.

Black men aren’t the only people in the world who are paranoid and dealing with power struggles. Black women stress over black men, for the fear of “losing” them. Rajen is a man who is obsessed with pop culture and street life. It’s evident these are the main sources he gets his information from, which is why his book is so eccentric. If the author had picked a proper title for this book, representing what the content is really about, it wouldn’t be so bad. I have read this book not too long ago and based on the author’s writing skill and craft, it looks as if this book could have been written sometime in the 1990s. This isn’t because the subject of “interracial dating” is old because it will never get old, but his writing skill & the subjects he touches are outmoded. This book should have been called “Paranoia in the Black Community”, because that is what this book is mainly about: deep-seated paranoia and anger that sleeps in the minds of certain African-Americans. But if that was the title of the book, it probably wouldn’t sell very many units. The choice title for this book is proof that Rajen Persaud just has an urge to sell books, just like Michael Eric Dyson and Karrine Steffans.

While the author has a few good points, don’t waste your money on this off-topic & weak book. Many of these things have been said 10-20 years ago.

INSTEAD, READ: “White Men Can’t Hump (As Good as Black Men)”, by Todd Wooten or “Handling the Truth II”, by Darrin Lowery-Smith.

I am a young pretty black female who loves to date white men on the regular and I never feel that they’re superior
to me. And I trust that they Love and respect me as I do them. I’m
comfortable, I feel sexy and black and I know they feel relaxed with me as well.
I think any good relationship begins with some form
of trust and confidence that shouldn’t have to be dignified based on the color of your skin.

In response to the idea of an interracial coupling,if it has or will ever cross your mind, is and would
be something unique and special that I will NEVER regret and WOULD recommend.Sounds funny and daunting, but it
shouldn’t have to be. All in all there are some wonderful guys out there who want to love you.
You just have to keep an open mind.

Thats why stay faithfull to yourself and your values – if you love someone from another race, then PRAY that nobody will destroy it.